The Woman Who Overgives
Mar 17, 2023
Back in the day when I was in the dating world, I wished someone would tell me how much I sabotaged my relationships with the feminine shadow of over-giving.
Just about every man would lose interest after a couple of months, after I’d go out of my way to make myself available to accommodate his schedule, buy him expensive gifts, give him advice, and be his beck and call.
I thought I was being a good girlfriend by always saying “yes.” The result of my over-giving pattern, was often a broken heart, and feeling used.
The feminine shadow of over-giving is often seen in business as people pleasing, undercharging and over-giving, poor boundaries with clients, and inability to hold onto consistent cashflow. The energetic container of an over-giver has many leaks.
Many women operate from the Lover Wound: we yearn to be loved and ravished by men and the Masculine, but we have never been modeled how to truly relate to, and receive Him from a healthy and wholesome place.
A woman who yearns to be claimed and ravished by her man CHOOSES to honor his core value of freedom.
Women who grew up with an emotionally unavailable father often mother their men, by treating them like little boys that they get to school and coddle.
While the feminine shadow of over-giving and telling him what to do for his sake may seem selfless and loving on the surface.
In reality, it is smothering and emasculating His warrior spirit.
A part of how he exercises his freedom, is choosing to pursue you, claim your heart, and meet you in the field of your yearnings (this is NOT to be confused with feminine entitlement and expectation. Lots of nuances here).
In a committed relationship of healthy Masculine/Feminine dynamics, He feels good giving you his strength and security, and you feel good receiving, and reflecting this love back to him through your open feminine heart and body.
