The Truth About the Soft Girl
Jan 26, 2024
There’s a lot of talk about the soft girl these days.
It’s easy to over-simplify and linear-nize something as multidimensional as our feminine essence, because the mind doesn’t have the capacity to hold the nuances.
Being a soft girl isn’t just about following a formula of eating steak, frolicking in the garden naked, purposelessly drifting through life, and somehow magnetizing Mr. Darcy, and all the clients and cash into her field.
That’s just playing in a 50 Shades of Grey fantasy, and reacting to the hustle trauma from your previous life.
Here’s our true feminine biological blueprint:
The egg - the potent fertileness of our feminine essence, doesn’t lay around all day with no purpose. Every month, she goes on the pilgrimage of maturation, leaves her safety nest (the ovary) to travel through the ovarian tube where she rests in a period of active stillness.
Upon penetration and fertilization by the sperm, she moves into the womb, and goes through a beautiful and VERY active metamorphosis of turning from a ball of cells into a human!
You want to be ravished by your man, and turned on by your work, your clients, and your money?
Descend into your root and your womb.
Go deeper into the complexity of your humanity - the vulnerable desires, the felt-senses, the emotions, and the experiences.
Be devoured by devotion.
Return to your soma.
The truth is, you can hold both the pain and the pleasure. The hard and the soft. The too-little and the too-much, when you are resourced from in and down.
It isn’t about following another black-and-white formula. But to expand your capacity to hold nuances where paradoxes of grief and ecstasy can co-exist within you.
So, who's the soft girl?
The soft girl can hold nuances.
She is as comfortable with working an 8-hour day if the creative juices are moving through her, as spending her days playing, baking, and love making.
The soft girl relates to everything, from her relationship with her body and pelvic bowl.
Wanna do nothing all day? Wanna ditch all structure? Check in - is it truly coming from the wisdom of your womb, or are you simply rebelling against your boss babe days?
The soft girl can make hard decisions and be the CEO of her business.
Because she knows the ultimate boss and source of her business is God. She is simply the vessel - being moved into inspired action.
The soft girl doesn’t chase after pleasure.
But allows herself to be immersed in the pleasure of feeling the full sensations of what is, including the edginess, in the fluidity and language of every moment.
The soft girl is your woman.
Waiting for you to excavate and liberate her from your root. So she can be expressed in her full-range creativity, sensuality, capaciousness, and aliveness.
You are the earth body. Blood. Bones. Seasons. Roars of the animal. Wilderness of nature. Death. Life. Renewal.
You are the daughter. Forever cherished and protected. The crown jewel of God’s kingdom.
You are the lover. To open your heart. Melt in his arms. And be obliterated by love.
You are the mother. Equipped to be crowned and ravished by even the most intense moments in life, because you are encoded to meet the death/life portals of birth.
Aka. Just. Be. Woman.
